Today is Xmas, but I've done last Sunday
Today is Xmas. It's nice schedule because today is Friday, so next day is holiday for lots of people. But I've done last Sunday. I and my wife don't like crowded. All year I went through Xmas is so crowded everywhere. So we decided to spend Xmas time before 12/24 and 12/25.
Of course I'm not chritian, so it's no mattar if the day is diffenrent. In Japan Xmas is the special day that alomost of all hope to share the time with lover or family. (I understand many people can't do it because of some reasons. I simphasize your feeling because after I graduated the college, I didn't spend Xmas because of work without this year. So for me Xmas is the oridialy day that I work.) This year we already have done, so today we spend each other. My wife goes to movie and I'm home and write this. It's not sad, misery feeling, rather I feel happy to get the time for myself. (I never say I like to spend the time without my wife.)
So what I want to say, Shifting Xmas time, the special time, is fairy good. I like this way. Maybe we'll spend same way next year. The way that when I work until others are rest, and when I'm rest when othres work is so comfortable. How to use times is important subject to spend good time.
Only one side's opinion doesn't show the others situation
I rememberd today that few years ago I was said "is it weird that mens use hand cream isn't it? It's for ladies I think". I think about this opinion and it shows other problem.
I use it from junior high school student to protect my hands. My family run the Japanese restaurant, so I work with sometime when I am vacation. I surve the dishes, and wash tableware. Because of it, my hands get easy to get rough. To protect my hands, I started to use hand cream. (In the first place, I like good scent, so I keep using
L'Occitane's hand cream.)
There are lot of mens who is same situation. On the other hands, the people who don't experience to get hands rough, maybe don't understand how sensitive it is. I don't want to beat the opinion I was said, but only one side's opinion is not show the thought and situation that we experience, so I disagree this opinion and the opinion that doesn't suppose other people's position.
And more important thing, the opinion shows the prejudice that ordinaly hand creams are used by women, not mens. It's free to have own ideal state, but if we push it others, it just annoying. We are different, so it is natural for us to be different from what othres think. I think lots of people forget this principle.
Only small memory leads other thought today. Maybe I felt bad when I was said. I think we have to stop say opinion that is based on only one's side because the opinion we don't consider othrers position makes us discomfort. I'll be careful too.
My father becomes addicted to motorcycle
My father is 55 years old. This year he becomes addicted to motorcycle. Since he was young, he like it, but he is a owner chef of my restaurant, so he keep being busy.
In this COVID-19 shock, he gets some time to use for himself. Then he went to driver's school and got licence of motorcycle. After that he bought two motorcycles. One of them is middle-size for practice, another one is the his main machine that is big size.
My mother said "He gets so crazy!", I think so too (; . However it is good thing to start something that make people be excited. It generate the energy to live happily I think. I agree his behavior. Maybe I'll be given it in the future.
I learn we don't need to do what we dislike
I watched the video about HSP(Highly senstive person). I learned we can do what I want to do like ignoring, muting, and so on. In this video HSPs can't do this, so they suffer. Maybe I don't be it but I also feel same emotion. Now I have difficult boss who want to control our behavior, and don't listen to my thought. Indeed I don't want to work with him, but I'm his subordinate, so have to follow his direction.
After watching this video, I learned important things. Especially I got nice idea that we don't need to be close the people I don't like. So maybe I'll offer HR stuff that after I finish this project, I'll never work with him again. I want to keep a distance. Of course his knowledge and experiences are great, but I dislike his stance. The mind "all things I dislike I don't have to accept" is the most important message I learned from the video. It's nice idea.
Good job change makes us happy
Today I met former colleague. He changed the job from 2 years ago because he didn't get the good chance in our company, and can't work the job that he wanted to, that was the consulting of system security. So he moved the company that is IT consulting company. I ask him " So did you do what you want to do?". And he said "Yes. I could do the job of security professionally 2 years. I traind my skill and get some specialist qualification. It was good choise I think".
In fact, I knew his unforunally situation, so I recommend him to change the job. Of cource I didn't let him choose the job, but I said if you change his situation, you should change the company. Now I think it is wrong proposal, so I'm happy. I understand that if we are in difficult, unfortunally, or severe situation, we can run away from it to change the job.
Changing something makes us change. It turns good or bad our situation, and we don't choose each other. But It shows that we change our situation. We have the right of choise. I should never throw it away, and forget it.
What should I do when I can't do to do
Now I face the trouble. I have to do the task from yesterday morning. I understand that, but I can't do it because I don't want to, in other words I'm not motivated this task.
I know the reason. It is the task to be instructed from the boss (certainly he is an advisor of the project) , and it only uses to explain the detail of project. Frankly it is so boring.
Then I wonder what should I do when I can't do to do. Many books and articles say you should start it a little bit. Important thing is to start doing. I understand it of cource, but I know it is boring, and it is troublesome. Um... I wonder I don't match this project. No thing makes me be exited, and encourage. If it is the task of managaer of this type's projects, I don't keep doing.
Anyway, I have to do, I'll do it. It's only my complaint, and not be worth. I don't beleive myself to keep going this project by March.
I face trouble that I don't come up with the ideas to solve
As a manager, I face the trouble. Unfortunally, because I don't have experienced this situation, I really don't come up wit the ideas to solve it. I must propose the idea on Monday. It's hard for me, but I have to work. Umm... what a hard weekend.
