We have to be a listener when we talk with if we are liked
I watched youtube about the book of talking. The book's key message is
"We love us and we want to talk about myself because we are the emotional animal, so if we are liked, you should be the person who makes the situation that people talk".
In other words, if we are liked, we have to be a listener about the taliking of the story that people want to talk. You know we don't want to listen to others because others story's usually are not interesting. We tend to get bored. We want to talk.
The root and difinite reason why, we want to be understood, recognized, and liked. We all have approval desire. We can't throw it away. We must live with it. So if we want to be liked, we satisfy the desire. We can prepare the situation that we listen to others talking and sympathize their story. We suppress the thought we want to talk ourself, we thoroughly are listener. In short, we make the field we feel we are important and understood.
It's difficult to be only listener I know, but if we are liked, we throughly are listener, and satisfy the disire of approval. I feel interesting that the talking books tell us the importance of listening. But the importance of communication is same I study. It's the sympathize and satisfing the people disire.
